2. Narrow down your focus Once you’ve listed out your loved one’s many positive attributes and accomplishments, along with stories and memories of them, you can begin narrowing down what to write in your tribute. What jumps out at you? Do you notice any themes? Perhaps all of your favorite stories of your brother include a funny anecdote. If so, maybe you’ll want to showcase his wicked sense of humor and ability to make everyone smile. Or perhaps everything you wrote down about your aunt reveals her dedication to her community, in which case, you may want to focus on her volunteer initiatives that reflect her love and kindness.