However, the Quora user would try to give a balanced tone as to the pros and cons but spoke a lot more to the cons. She would say that in some ways, it became like a prison, especially when her father became an alcoholic after her grandmother died. Sometimes, her father would be aggressive and get drunk a couple of days a week, but never when he had an interview. Nobody outside the family and circle of friends knew. No one could talk about it either because they didn’t want to disappoint other people’s perception of her father.